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Persevering Through A Pandemic (2/2)

[Last week we spoke about the pandemic of fear that is gripping our world and our hearts. This fear, anxiety, frustration, and uncertainty that you feel is affecting your horse. We discussed Steps 1 & 2 on how the horses teach us to conquer fear. This week, let’s pick up where we left off with Steps 3 to 6.]

Step 3. Use Logic

Once when the horse’s heartbeat has slowed down, they’ll move their head up and down a bit and start analyzing the scary thing, comparing it to other things they’ve seen before and determining the best course of action.

Now that your heart beat rhythm is more calm and harmonious, in a state that researchers call coherence, your brain can come back online. You can start to use heart-informed logic now. Ask yourself the following questions:

How is this feeling - anxiety, fear, frustration, disappointment, uncertainty, overwhelm, etc - helping me right now? It’s not. It’s only making it worse.

What am I in control of? You’ll find that you’re not in control of the situation, you’re not in control of others, you’re not in control of the future. But you are in control of your emotional reaction to the situation. So stop trying to control what you can’t control. And start controlling the one thing that you can.

Step 4. Don’t Do It Alone

When a horse is scared, they look to others to help them through. Whether that is a buddy with them on the trail, a herd mate, or you, horses are social animals and they feel safer with others, especially with someone who can lead them through the situation calmly.

With everything that is going on right now, reach out to others. Connect with others. Let your loved ones know how you’re doing and ask them how they are doing. Avoid groups that amplify fear, scarcity, uncertainty, frustration, and overwhelm - especially on social media. Instead find calm with others, and be a source of calm for others, especially for family, children and those who look to you for guidance.

Connect. Connect to others. Connect to yourself. Connect to God/Goddess/Source/Creator/your purpose to get you through this time. Lean on those who can lead you through this.

Step 5. An Opportunity for Growth

How a horse handles one scary situation - or more accurately, how a horse is handled through one scary situation - sets him up for either ongoing failure or ongoing success. If he is handled with impatience and intolerance, if he is pushed through without regard, if he is forced to ignore it, then the next scary situation will be just as bad and possibly worse. If he is handled with compassion and tact, grace and ease, with regard for his needs, then he will look to the one who helped him through with ever-increasing trust and willingness, and he will become more courageous. He will grow, not despite the challenge, but because of the challenge.

Simply put, the challenges in this point in time can build you, or they can break you. The choice is yours. Who is this situation calling you to be? Is this situation going to bring out the worst in you, or will it bring out the best? Will you dig deeper, reach higher, love harder? How is this situation asking you to grow?

Step 6. Repeat

The world is full of things that your horse finds scary. But as he grows, he becomes more confident and courageous. Things will still scare him, but he’ll repeat this process over and over.

This is not a once and done approach. You might have to do this 30 times before breakfast as fear, or uncertainty, frustration, or overwhelm creep back onto the scene. Follow the 5 steps above. Continue to ease yourself through fear every single time it rears its head. And eventually you’ll get to the point where you only have to do it 3 times before breakfast.

This situation is not the last one that will trigger your fear, uncertainty, frustration, and anxiety. The world is full of challenges. But as you grow, you’ll become more confident and courageous. You’ll trust yourself, you’ll trust others, and you’ll trust Life itself as you see good things can always come from bad.

While half-halts, side passing, and shoulder outs are beautiful, the true beauty of our equine relationships lie not in what we can teach our horses, but what they can teach us along the way.

Here’s to You and Your Horse.

With Heart,

Elaine

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