Are You Worried About What Others Think Of You?
I go for bike rides with my horse.
It’s awesome. My horse gets her exercise without the weight of a rider. I get my exercise. We go in straight lines without around and around in a pen. We connect as she trots evenly and calmly right by my side. And we have a ton of fun.
But admittedly, we look insane.
Cars go by. Other people who have horses see us. Farmers in the area watch us. And my mind can go a mile a minute.
What do they think of me?
Do they think my horse is fat?
Do they think I don’t know how to ride?
Do they believe that my horse is too crazy to ride?
What do they think?
Honestly though, I don’t know what they’re thinking. And it really doesn’t make a difference one way or another. I do weird stuff with my horses. I talk to them. I laugh with them. I go on walks with them. I wave at them whenever I walk by. I kiss them and hug them and stare at their eyes and ears, nostrils, legs, and curves. Yup, I’m weird.
But I have to be ok with that. Because this is my life. These are my horses. I’m going to do the best I can in the way that matters most to me. This is me.
So here’s 4 things to remember when you start tying yourself in a pretzel about what others think of you.
#1 People don’t think about you as much as you think they do. Everyone has their own stuff going on and sorry to say, they’re not thinking about you. So get over yourself, do your best, and get on with your own life.
#2 What other people think of you is none of your business. Mind your own business and let them judge you if that’s what they want to do. It’s their waste of energy if they want to look down their nose at you.
#3 We all do things our way. We all have our reasons for the things we do. And for the love of all things holy, we are all just trying to do our best. If you feel that other people are judging you for the way you do this or that, take a good hard look at yourself and be sure that you’re not the one being judgey. Are you being hard on others?
#4 Give yourself a break. No one is judging you as harshly as you are judging yourself. You’re your own worst enemy with all your self-criticism, shaming, and comparing. Lay off yourself and just lighten up a thousand times more. Don’t take it all so seriously.
Once you get over your fear of what others are thinking, once you quit comparing yourself to others, once you stop beating yourself up, you’ll find that you have so much more energy for what really matters to you you: your horse, your relationships, your life.
Here’s to you and your horse!